As a queer man, I want to speak for myself and engage other queer persons, especially queer men with two points of thought on consent. First, consider the violence we do to our female friends’ bodies. Consider how we shame them, commodify them, and degrade them. I’m not judging you for a casual “Hey B*tch” or “Gurl” here or there. I’m talking about touching them, groping them, without consent. Ladies with queer identified friends, how often have we (myself included) allowed ourselves to grab, prod, play with your bodies as if they are our playthings. These women are our friends and sisters and mothers and girlfriends and sometimes lovers.